You mentioned something about a “Bubble Sort” when you talked about creating a Kick-A$$ Clarity List. What is it and how do I do one?
A Bubble Sort is the process of comparing two items and deciding which one you would prefer (not *have to do*…prefer!). And it’s an essential part of discovering what you really want and making sure you focus your resources on it instead of wandering around the woods, wondering what’s next.
If you’ve been to an eye doctor, you’ve actually done one before. Remember when the doctor diddles around with some dials and then says “which is better, A or B?” You’re choosing the option that gives you the greatest clarity at that moment (what I call Kick-A$$ Clarity), which is exactly what you want to do in your life.
The easiest way to do a Bubble Sort is to partner up with someone who knows how to keep you from “shoulding” on yourself. It is ever so easy to hear the voices of those who have previously guided your life (you know the ones I mean, yes?).
Note: This isn’t a perfect science and there is only ONE right answer…the answer the fits you and the life you want to live. Each time you do a Bubble Sort, you’ll find details you didn’t know were important to you. And that’s perfect! It is the way it should be…because now that you know more, you can be more specific.
So feel free to do, and re-do, and re-do your Bubble Sort. In fact, when I first learned how to do this, I re-did my Bubble Sort every week for 6 weeks. Plus I did a bunch of specific Bubble Sorts.
So, for example, once I found out my top two items, I did more Bubble Sorts to figure out what was most important to me about each of those items.
This is the first exercise I do with new coaching clients, folks who are looking for “Who’s their who” and anything else that has a buttload of choices and confusion has set in, which usually means you’re frozen place!
Whether it’s what type of food to grab or what you want to do with your life, mastering this approach makes it a lot easier to choose! Just make sure to leave those old voices in the playyard while ya do this. “Shoulda/coulda/woulda” or “shame/guilt” ain’t gonna getcha the life ya dream of![contentblock id=1 img=gcb.png]
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